C:F PenPals #3: The Greatest Honor to Be Alive is when it is the Hardest Time to Live

by Udoka Chiefe, Stefan Alijevikj on 5th June, 2015 at 3:18 PM CEST

We are moving on, our third issue of the PenPals is here! Go through the second issue available HERE to be more in the story 

Fri, May 8, 2015 at 10:20 PM

Hey Stefan, 

I've been reading about what's been happening in Macedonia. It seems that the people want results and nothing but! It was brave of the group of women to do what they did. They would have joined in attacking the police but it seems that Macedonians have come to a consensus to get what they're protesting for peacefully. 

Yours Udoka

Thu, May 21, 2015 at 1:08 PM

Hey Udoka,

Situation here in Macedonia has developed and well... I will pause on talking on it. Let's see how things develop.

What was on my mind these days is the following question: Do you sometimes believe more in other people than you do believe yourself? What happens when you loose both belief in yourself or other people, friends, compantions, partner.. 


Mon, May 25, 2015 at 11:02 AM

Hey Stefan, 

I do tend to believe in others than myself. I like to encourage people who have ideas and projects that others don't necessarily agree with or understand, especially when it's not seen as the "usual" course. But these days I tend to do both, more so for myself. It's amazing what self-belief does to one's self esteem. 

What happens when you stop believing in yourself or others? Trust me, you don't want to go down that road. Depression sucks, as do other related issues.

Have you read the poem by Robert Frost, "The Road not Taken"? 

"I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I —
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.‎"

I remind myself that‎ everyone wasn't made to follow the same path and since we have only a limited time on Earth, we might as well live it to the best that we can. 

Nigeria seems to be sliding in a sludge into civil unrest. The fuel scarcity and strikes prior to the Democracy Day when the new president shall be sworn in has gripped the nation at its throat. ‎People here are fearful. For a crude oil producing nation, we tend to have some of the worse oil scarcity periods and strikes.


Mon, May 25, 2015 at 10:12 PM

Dear Udoka,

I would agree that one should first boost its own self with belief, to find the fuel... even when the fire is almost dead, "to find the smallest flame, reinstall the game". But it's such a trap sometimes to push all believes in 'the others'. It feels as if you always must leave a part to yourself to channel this energy you give to 'the others' and the world.

I know the poem you quote; it was on our reading list for English poetry classes back in university. I do miss university these days. I always feel a bit nostalgic that I am not a student anymore. 

Macedonia is not in a tricky situation. Sometimes it feels as if we were at the verge of war even. It's like a dark whirlpool that hangs around and threatens to take us somewhere. I am however still not able to pin down all events. Deeper contemplations would leave me to the question: how much will cost us reaching a world peace actually?


Tue, Jun 2, 2015 at 12:49 PM

Hello Stefan,

It seems like things are in a downward spiral in Macedonia. But really, it doesn't have to be. I've often thought that World Peace is something that may never be attained as it would mean that everyone would have to give up their individual desires for a common cause...noble but ultimately unrealistic in the world we live in today.

Nigeria is definitely more optimistic now that the new President has been sworn in. Only death or resignation could drag that man away from his position now, and I doubt he'd be willing to give into either. 

Do you ever think about the future and your significance in it? Imagine where you would be in just 5 years and wonder if all your principles and convictions would still be relevant to you then? How people change. I miss poetry in school. Who knew that studying law didn't require analysing Keats and Yeats?

I often wonder if I'm wasting time when I should be doing more important things with my life. But I've also had the privilege of seeing the issues I can solve with a little knowledge of law, and I know that it's not a bad place to be.

Hope to hear from you.


Wed, Jun 3, 2015 at 1:48 PM

Hi Udoka,

Then, world peace likewise many other "civilization desires" of our race would be attributed as "utopian" and "unreachable" if I dare frame things like this. But, maybe co-existence and co-creation are more suitable wordings as these leave the floor to the "individual desires" that humans cannot escape. 

Macedonia needs to return the power to the people, to develop igniting democracy that now is detectable among the smaller critically aware groups, but still not developed within the political parties in my opinion. It's inspiring when people really do have the power, to go to protest, to do the dialogue, to participate. 

The future is here and now for me. Every step we take each day is a brick we add to a wall, our lifepaths. On the other hand, I would put my faith in creative visualization of whom I want to be in 5 years and of how I imagine the world in 3 years, 5 years or 10 years. It's different as this picture is ever-changing and subject of the perpetual torments of life. Everything is subject of a constant change as the world has become so much dynamic, with so many synchronized and not synchronized events, overpopulation, resource depletion.

But, what I have liked is the following quote: "This is the hardest time to live, but it is also the greatest honor to be alive now, and to be allowed to see this time.." author: Tiokasin Ghosthorse

Warm regards from Skopje


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